The Week Of The Great Lock In

by Peter Meglisin Life Updateon Posted on

This Week

  • Rebuilding my coaching offer from the ground up.
  • How it felt to lock myself in my room this week.
  • A deep creative brainstorm session about what really matters to me.

June 2026

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Where In The World Was I?

  • Bali, Indonesia

Metrics From The Week

WE ARE SO BACK (got my pace of aging under 20 again)

Snaps From The Week

Coaching/Content

Basically spent my entire week in two places: my room and Nirvana, lol.

I said a couple weeks ago I wasn’t sure if I’d actually lock myself in my room for like 12 hours a day.

Well that’s about exactly what I’ve been doing lately 😂

Back in April I put a little poll out for a consistency patterns AI quiz. Decided to come back to that as I’ve been looking for more low-friction ways people can raise their hand in my world.

Threw it together, ran it with AI, then put it out there. I ran a trial reel and it absolutely flopped 😂 but my story promoting it actually got more than I was expecting.

It’s just basically a markdown text file that you upload to any AI and it’ll use it to guide you through 5 questions and surface/reflect any deeper pattern it sees. Pretty cool. Got the idea from Dan Bolton whose community I’m a part of.

The other major win this week was I decided to kind of go back to the drawing board and rebuild an offer from the ground up. I’ve been struggling with positioning and answer “what do you do” for quite a while… I’m finding most people that are drawn to me, who I’ve worked with, who I’ve had calls with, they all resonate emotionally with my content or know me in person. So the draw is much more “felt” than “if I just say the right words.”

So I passed about 20 call transcripts and in-depth notes to AI and one by one it pulled out quotes, problems, stated solutions, desires, etc.

And from that synthesized the patterns into an ICP statement and offer doc built from real people and not a concept.

Then figured out what I needed to change and turned that into an execution roadmap of what exactly I need to do first, then second, etc.

And this was a major turning point for me. Going from “just trust me bro” to actually creating an offer wording, language, deliverables, using the process that works.

I’ve been super stoked to be more deeply rooted in some clarity using a more structured process.

And that’s what triggered this “lock in” this week.

With this clarity and roadmap… the only thing left to do was… do it.

Just put my head down and went one by one checking things off.

And that’s exactly what I did.

That morning is when I posted this.

And by today (Sunday) it’s up to 23k views which is my highest ever so far. Noice.

Updated my Instagram profile, bio, added a new display name (same as what I’m calling this offer), “Signal Work”, re-recorded my full Start Here mini-VSL, updated my Client Wins testimonials story highlight, removed all the other story highlights of my travel and just added to my Life Lately, and then updated and reposted my Origin Story pinned post.

Wrote this from the POV of my ICP:

Feels really really good to get clarity and create stuff… produce stuff… get things done. I’ve always loved the post-creation accomplishment feeling.

Also had a really good set of calls this week, going deep, getting to the root, the gap between himself and the version he’s been trying to escape towards. Went super well, guided well, had some amazing questions and mirrors, stopped him in his tracks. Came out of it thinking… that, THAT is why I love coaching.

Bulking Progress

Did an Inbody scan last Sunday.

Left is October 12th, 2025 (~7mo ago; the end of 6mo in Bali), right is May 31st, 2026 (this week).

Main things to highlight:

  • Weight about the same as October: 88.4kg to 88.6kg
  • Muscle mass is actually DOWN: 46.4kg to 45.7kg
  • Fat mass is UP: 7.6kg to 9.7kg
  • Body fat percentage jump: 8.6% to 10.9%

And I wasn’t exactly surprised because I definitely started noticing I looked a bit bigger, bit heavier consistently for sure, bit of some fat around my belly that I kept noticing, but I never really trusted the Inbody scans because I was just getting the same results all last year.

But what did surprise me was that my muscle mass is down… and fat mass is up… I thought my bulk was “going well” and I’m just bigger, but in reality I’ve just recomp’d my muscle into fat…

And that was a little disheartening…

But at the same time, I have been actively trying to gain weight for like 4 years… and I’ve finally actually started gaining weight over the last year the most, and this scan shows I’ve actually started gaining fat… something I’ve never done before… So in that frame I’m like well, at least it works! I know can always cut.

But the point of bulking is to gain muscle mass (and fat usually comes as a byproduct).

So I was already like allllright I need to lock back in here, get my food a bit more dialed and get back to training intentionally. No more slacking.

AND THEN I went back and checked my progress pictures from last year.

And that was just the dagger to the heart.

The left photo is JUNE 23rd, 2025, right is May 31st, 2026, so almost exactly one year apart. Both are after runs, so no upper body pump.

It also happens that this particular photo, I don’t know how, but is the most insanely good photo I took all year. Got the posing perfectly too.

And I saw this last year photo and I’m like holy shit I was SHREDDED last year jesus. That photo is fucking CRAZY. And then I compare with the right photo I just took and I’m like WHAT THE HELL I LOOK SO FAT NOW NOOOOOOO FUCK

And you can actually see the Inbody scan I did June 20th, 2025:

  • Weight was almost 3kg down: 85.7kg to now 88.6kg
  • Muscle mass was just a little under: 45.2kg to now 45.7kg
  • Fat mass was WAY down: 7.2kg to now 9.7kg
  • Body fat was WAY down: 8.4% to now 10.9%

Soooo again I somehow had almost the same muscle mass, but over 2% less fat. Crazy.

So anyways… I gotta lock back in here. Fed the meal macros I’ve been getting to AI this week and realized my macros were a bit off and actually eating TOO much lately, so tweaked that. Let’s see where this goes over the next couple months.

Socializing

Had a great deep chat with a guy I met last week at Give It All. Talked about life, internal and external state, our perceptions. Super interesting debate and stimulating conversation.

Got dinner with some good friends at openhouse Seseh this week. HILARIOUS night. I missed this energy. Sharing stories, joking, laughing hysterically, poking fun of each other. You can’t pay any amount of money for these moments.

And then Friday night went to this dinner with the same guys and this group. Great italian restaurant in Seminyak, Da Maria. At around 10:30pm they pushed all the tables apart and it turned into club. It was actually a good time, I was surprised. Haven’t been out in ages.

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Inner work

Been doing a lot more of these micro-somatic drop ins, Focusing, IFS sessions. Feels good to get back in touch with my body.

Had a bit unlock this week feeling into this feeling of not being good enough and realizing a part of me just wanted to be seen in that moment. Started tearing up. Something unlocked that moment.

Thoughts From The Week

Back and forth journaling exploring with AI around the ideas I had around starting a newsletter:

202606011123 Creative brainstorm session

#ideas 

Context: [[202606011118 Newsletter topic ideas that I feel good about]] and [[20260601_112332_Love_this_energy._I'm_ready_to_riff._But_first—_W]]

What was different about the frame of "newsletter topic" that gave you permission to think about what you're _actually curious about_ vs. what you think a YouTube video "should" be?
- Yeah good callout, there's some curiosity in there to wrestle with ideas, life, have an insight, but more seeing the newsletter less as "here's the done framework" and more creative storytelling, expression. I think there's less pressure as well, YouTube feels like it needs to be live, I'm actively recording. Newsletter feels like I can write, edit, flow, come back, tweak, and ideate, craft.
- Now that I write that I'm like wait a second... this idea of _crafting something_, coming back to make it perfect... is that protecting me from something? The discomfort of live stakes of YouTube... Being seen imperfectly?
- _Where's the line between crafting as avoidance and crafting as honoring the way your mind works?_
- Let's see where this goes... I had one of the most important realizations after starting my [[202211100731 DailyV]] videos, and that's [[202012040847 Speaking your thoughts is beneficial]]. One of my earliest notes. The process of going from vague thoughts, fuzzy stuff in your brain, to words... and then analyzing the words "is that right? wait no it's more like..." is helpful to form ideas and thoughts.
- I've also resonated with the [[202210080804 Jordan B Peterson]] approach of thinking through ideas live, showing the _process_ of something, being there with them and I think that's what I've liked about DailyV videos and my Life Update blog posts, _showing_ the thinking process. But my Life Update blog posts are an interesting data point. I _already_ tell stories, share ideas, share notes, I craft things, enjoy that process of telling a story, bringing the reader along.
- Part of what I'm realizing here is that I'm actually not sure where this line is or how to tell... What I can say and tell is that writing feels safer. Yeah, it's why when I was in like high school and college, I always preferred texting people/girls, because I could read what they said, think through my response, think about a question, how to keep the conversation going, give them enough hooks to continue. And I think this is why I struggled sending voice notes when I started doing them, because of the pressure... it's live. Had this image back to Brew Culture Coffee in Denver, sitting in the back, writing about this [[202211011030 Processing my thoughts on writing vs video]] haha and there it is. So anyways, I think my thought process here is almost along this mindset of like safety = comfortable = not growth = bad. And so I "should" (who's "should?") do the thing that's harder and more uncomfortable. But back to the point of the question here... is this _inherently bad?_ Maybe not.

"The gap between knowing and doing" — this is your whole thing, but it's also the most crowded space in self-help. What's your _specific_ angle that nobody else has? Is it the somatic piece? Is it that self-awareness is actually the problem, not the solution? Because "the gap between knowing and doing" said by most coaches sounds like a productivity video. Said by you, it should sound like an indictment.
- I think I've got a couple angles here, one is the story angle, the confusion about what it _feels_ like from the inside to be doing all the right things, trying all the self-help habits, habit tracker, beliefs, thinking your way through all of this... _and still feel like you're stuck, circling._ The idea that you get too deep into self-awareness that more information no longer helps you.
	- This gets into my [[202510010727 Speech for Give It All - The Fear Compass]] story, and I think the nugget or idea or insight or wisdom here, my unique angle, is the emotional and body and nervous system side of this as the "way out"
- Any other angles, ideas, or stories here? Is this _one_ newsletter or are there multiple angles here?
	- There's the mirroring the problem from the inside, my story about The Fear Compass and social exchanges, there's the "I was trying to think my way out of a feeling problem" in [[202601101201 Video - Why I couldn't think my way out of my biggest problems in life]] and [[202603301822 Video - What I've actually been learning about inner work lately]]

"How the body impacts your decision making" — what's ONE specific moment where you felt this in your own life? Not the concept. The moment. Because the concept is a TED talk. The moment is a reel that makes someone's stomach drop.
- [[202510010727 Speech for Give It All - The Fear Compass]] - social exchanges, tightness, fear, producing the overthinking
- Could basically talk about any kind of micro-moment of Resistance in my life. I think this concept is all about Resistance with a capital R. And I think it's bringing language to this idea that you are not ONLY your thoughts, but your body and nervous system is always acting, and sometimes doing things that are subconsciously influencing how you think, your thoughts, your excuses, your logic.
- Other moments?
	- Crying after Bali brotherhood hearing someone's story, connecting to love I think it was this one [[202510040806 Bali Brotherhood session]]
	- Avoidance to outreach, sending messages - the travel blogger research, building charts instead of sending messages; the videohawk sending like 2 looms in 1 hour
	- My curiosity towards the energy of love, the [[202507162141 Bali Intensive - Inner Circle Event]] breath work sessions, breath work with [name] [[202507252111 Breathwork with [name] notes]], seeing love come up in focusing sessions
	- The whole idea that something can unlock at the body level and completely independent of needing a logical thought "solution" to be thought and fixed. My own IFS sessions, crying in that park in SLC [...], crying in my van remembering the [...]. And not only those but how I felt _afterwards_.

"The experiments, habits, and systems that have stuck" — the interesting word here is _stuck_. What makes something stick vs. not? Is it the system itself, or is it something about who you were when you found it? Could the video actually be about why most things DON'T stick?
- Some thoughts that come to mind: this "habit tracker" tendency for people in self-improvement kind of just starting out. The whole "wake up, journal, meditate, read 10 pages, cold shower, deep work..." list. My angle and frame here is that these things are directionally accurate but I think people don't understand why. Checking the box that you meditated isn't about the habit, why are you meditating in the first place? do you understand the role that meditation plays in your life? And like journaling... do you know why you're journaling or are you doing because that's what everyone else has on their habit tracker? Do you journal with a _purpose?_ My past self and my ICP journals a lot, they analyze and think through everything... so maybe the answer is not journaling, maybe you need to STOP journaling.
- There's more here but those are my first thoughts...
- _The "stop journaling" thought is spicy. You're essentially saying the tool that your ICP uses most religiously might be the thing keeping them stuck._
	- Yeah I mean look at what happened with [name] [[202605190859 [name] - Week 3 notes]], where I asked him about the physical sensation and then he put that into chatgpt and told it "my life coach is telling me to sit with this feeling ..." and then proceeded to "journal" to it about where he's feeling stuck and then PASTED the chatgpt response into a message to me with this full plan... and then nothing changed lol.
	- And it's my whole part of my journey trying to think my way through my interests, passions, mining my life more and more and more... and then looking back thinking "bro you didn't have enough information... the data isn't even in there" and how I had to travel, meet people, get out of my comfort zone, overcome the social fear I had (talking to people) to realize my gifts of presence and how I act in conversations.
- _Like, you're not procrastinating — you're journaling about your procrastination. You're not avoiding — you're meditating on your avoidance. _
	- No, it's more like you're journaling IS procrastination. You're journaling and just spinning. Your behavior isn't changing. You're looking for some insight, idea, some other voice instead of working on how to actually change your behavior and listening to the voice in your head that's _already_ there. And all of this journaling, habit tracker shit, listening to podcasts about how to be more disciplined, about "retardmaxxing" (what [name] told me, this podcast he listened to) and just locking in, it FEELS like progress, yes... but then nothing changes, and then the next week there's a new podcast on some new term around the same idea and you listen to that one and you're like "yeah yeah yeah this is what I need I need to do this"

_A thread I notice running through ALL of these topics: Every single example you gave for "how the body impacts decision making" — the crying in the park, the breathwork, the Bali brotherhood, the IFS session — those are moments where something happened TO you. ... What's the "after" about? What actually changes in that post-cry, post-release window?_
- Interesting... yeah it's almost like this connection to an energy of love, people (and I) come back to a more pure version of myself, abundance, feeling held, supported. I kinda of "wake up" from those experiences and see the world differently. You realize that the logical thought "I need to do X first" "I didn't do enough" was actually just a fear, it was a protection from something deeper, a feeling you didn't want to feel. And then when you actually allow that feeling, you feel into it, you ask it what it needs, you realize there's some version of you still running the show, some kid who needs a hug, needs to be seen, needs love. And you're like holy shit... all these excuses, all this avoidance, it's my 8 year old self who didn't get love in that big moment with yadda yadda and learned in that moment that he needs to be independent and can't trust anyone else.
- I'm still working on bringing more awareness to these voices at the granularity of DAILY, like most viscerally, I see a girl, like her, think about approaching, then my mind just rushes in with this flood of thoughts "nah she's reading right now, what would I say, what if she doesn't like me, what would I say after, what if... what about..." and then I do nothing. But I think the IFS-idea is to go "hold on, is this me or is this a part of me? is this a protector voice? this is that fraud part isn't it?" and in that moment go "I hear you buddy, what do you need" and then there's this space where you kind of calm down and your presence softens and you feel a bit more of that love. Still working on that micro-moment awareness. But that's what I'm learning around this. It's not "I jUSt NeEd tO Do It bRO sTOp oVerTHinKIng" which is usually the online self-improvement narrative, "just do it", count down from 3 and then go, etc.

_You listed Resistance with a capital R as the throughline for the body stuff. But some of your most powerful examples aren't resistance — they're surrender. Crying. Opening. Letting love in. ... Is resistance even the right frame? Or is the real idea something more like — your body is always telling you something, and sometimes it's saying stop and sometimes it's saying go, and the problem is you've been trained to override both signals with logic?_
- First thought is... Resistance is usually the outer layer. Avoidance. Procrastination. Surrender is the inner layer, the "fix." So I would need to think about this more, but my first thought is like... I feel resistance or avoidance towards recording a youtube video. I do something else on my todolist. Here's where the mainstream narrative is like "bRO YoU JusT HaVE tO Do IT" but where I jump in here is like, what's this resistance? What if you sat with it, felt into it, what are you afraid of? And then allowing this feeling, and then surrendering into it, asking what it needs, and then coming out of that with something in your body level and mind changed... more abundance, realizing you are afraid of being seen, but what it needs is your love, etc. etc.
- But to your last point/question, yeah I agree, I think the body is not _only_ telling us one movement, but is always telling us something and we've trained our brains, or our nervous system has been wired in a way such that we override or try to override those signals with logic and analysis.


_The most alive energy in everything you wrote is the "against" energy. ... You come alive when you're saying "no, that's not it, and here's why." Worth noticing: do you have a name for what you're for, or do you mostly know what you're against? Because "against" energy is magnetic but it eventually needs a home to point toward._
- Nice callout haha. I'm relating this question to what this random guy [name] was messaging me about, and I think trying to get me on a call to sell me something, but this idea of what are you pulling people _towards_? What's the long term narrative? The vision? What's the "dream outcome?" And I was explaining how people are resonating a lot with me and my story, and I talk about moving towards clarity, alignment, etc. to some extent, but I don't really have a long term vision, like that I could build a community around one core "home" as you called it.
- But that aside, with this question... my first thought is something like: bringing people back to themselves. I wrote this to [name] from Hinge who asked me what I do over text and I said "I coach people back to themselves." It just came out. But it just felt super clean. Opens a nice curiosity loop door too. I like that. It's this "home" and "belief" that you already know, your body knows, getting to a place of alignment, where you're serving and building from purpose and passion and fulfillment and not trying to run from something, some insecurity, trying to prove someone wrong, get more money thinking that'll solve your problem... but living from an aligned state, being clear on your vision, serving from your unique strengths and what you actually give a fuck about and what you're uniquely good at. It's not one business model, it's not one vision, it's you aligned with yourself.

_So what's the difference between what you're doing right now and what [name] did with ChatGPT?_
- Yeah fair. The difference is what happens after this... Does this become another note that sits in my vault never to be read again? Or do I _use_ this and change my behavior in some way... Do I take one idea and turn it into a YouTube video? Do I take something in here and start my first newsletter on it? If I feel some resistance or avoidance to it... do I believe my thought that "ah shoot I need to get that done from my todolist" "ah I need to go to the gym now" or do I actually _close_ the loop.


_Something is forming around this word "after." ... The question I'd sit with: what do you call that "after" state? Not as branding, just — when you try to point at it, what word or image comes?_
- "Awakening" is the word that just hit me.

_The writing vs. speaking thread went somewhere really honest. ... But what if some of your gifts actually live in the safe space? What if the growth edge isn't "do the scary thing" but "stop assuming your natural mode is cheating"?_
- Ahhohhhh interesting. What just hit me was this thing with [name], this "I should be [activity]" and all the resistance around that, versus the energy when he talks about gaming, some of that creative flow from recording and producing... Trying to guide to this idea of just allowing something natural to be okay... Super interesting reframe. I've gotten feedback from [name] that he likes reading my blog posts because of seeing how I think through ideas... [[202604120817 Feedback from [name] about how my blog posts differ from other content]]
	> ... Because I've noticed you describe your thinking process if you'd categorize it like that. And I just like the way you think through ideas and it doesn't really, or at least I haven't seen it on your Instagram. Maybe it's there but I don't spend too much time there. And I have watched a few of your videos like the daily vlogs and some of the long-form content. It might just be the way I like your writing more so than speech. I just, as I said that, I realize that might have been like a backhanded compliment but I hope you don't take it the wrong way. I just, I like reading the way you write because I find it very organized and easy to follow. And I feel like I'm like there with you. Whereas sometimes in a video I'd have to like rewind and it just takes more effort sometimes I guess. Which isn't always the case. ...
- And not that I should be basing my life around external feedback, but it's validation of kind of what I've already thought, which is something around how I organize and take in information. Wait another note is coming to mind here... [[202012260928 Finding what you're passionate about]] "What are you good at? ... Taking in and parsing a lot of information" I remember this also as feedback from Lee at LaunchBox in college, how well I can take in a lot of information, parse it, understand it. It came up in how I wrote documentation for my team at work, it shows up in the fact that my Obsidian vault now has just under 7,000 notes and I've been using it and writing and journaling in it for almost 6 years...
- But also I tried writing on Twitter way back and it just felt less authentic. I think watching a video _feels_ more real and authentic. Writing is more about the idea and less about the human. 

_One pattern I keep seeing across everything: You have a very clear map of the descent — from surface resistance, down through the avoidance, into the feeling, finding the younger part, giving it love. You can trace that path in your own life, in your clients, in the girl-at-the-coffee-shop moment. But you're less clear on the ascent — what happens after the love, after the rebooting? How does someone come back up into their life and actually act differently the next day? Because that's the part your ICP is going to ask about. They'll believe the descent. They'll want to know what changes on Tuesday morning._
- Yeah this is a good callout tbh and I think it's identifying the part of this that I'm still fuzzy about. And maybe this is why I get these "not good enough" thoughts and try to overdeliver on client calls, this subtle tendency towards lecturing and controlling and not relaxing into trust... Maybe it's because I don't fully know and fully have conviction in the ascent.
- My first thoughts: something like, awareness to the feelings and voices right before you reach for that phone, avoid recording the video, etc. (that's IFS work), then there's the habit part of things, the self-trust, setting micro-commitments that you keep, rebuilding your self trust by actually following through on things that you say you'll do. Then there's the more macro part about working on the thing where you feel flow, purpose, service, excitement, energy, and not what you "need" or "should" be doing. Is that it? Kind of feels more scattered.


202606030748 Morning journaling - Artisan

#journal 

June 3rd 2026 | Artisan

Sup. Bit of a late night last night, but I needed that, that energy, the laughs. I'm in a "think outside the box" kinda mood right now. Gonna try these Dan Bolton prompts.

🔥 FRICTION
1. What feels heavy, disconnected, or out of rhythm right now?
	- Explaining what I do to people. That chat with [name] and [name] yesterday. Just feels disconnected, hard to explain.
	- I told him the version that's like "I coach guys who are trying to build something of their own — leave their job, start a business — and it keeps not getting off the ground." and he went "I still don't understand..."
	- Hesitated, struggled, said some things, talked about [name]'s situation, and he eventually understood it perfectly. Can't remember exactly what he said, but it was something like, you see and work on some behavioral pattern that's underneath...

2. What am I continuing to do…. in calendar, commitments, or routines… that no longer reflects who I am or what I want?
	- Not the exact question, but overthinking my approaches to girls, taking myself too seriously and believing rejection actually means something... It's just this old identity and old thoughts.

3. Where is my effort outweighing the return, emotionally or financially?
	- Effort outweighing return with content, calls, just not really producing anything concrete right now...

💓 FEELING
3. What emotions have I been avoiding… but know I need to feel?
	- Not good enough, feeling seen, exposed

4. What does my nervous system crave right now…. rest, space, certainty, excitement?
	- Nervous system is craving certainty

5. What am I hoping no one asks me about… because I don't want to admit the answer?
- [... :) ]

🌊 FLOW
6. What part of my work feels the most like me right now… the easiest, most natural expression of who I am?
	- Calls, Tribal Solutions, in person conversations, writing and ideating, some part of content Reels/stories/videos

7. What opportunities or directions am I secretly (or obviously) excited by right now?
	- not sure, anything to get me more client calls lol

8. If I stopped second guessing, what's the most obvious next true step for me?
	- Something like stop second guessing what you do, perfecting my content, and just share more, stories, content, get more opportunities for people to connect with me the human, because that's who has been resonating with me the most, the people who _know_ me, who've seen me in person, who've felt me

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