The Week Of The Uncomfortable Networking Events

This Week

The networking events I went to this week and the transformational takeaways
Why I decided to start coaching myself
The food from the week section has returned this post!

August 2025

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Where In The World Was I?

🇮🇩 Canggu (Bali, Indonesia)

Metrics From The Week

I think Whoop changed how they calculate sleep performance sometime in the last couple months to account for sleep consistency more. Either that or I’ve just previously been so consistent with my sleep that it hasn’t mattered.

Currently my sleep consistency is deep in the dumpster, so it’s been hard to get well over 80% sleep performance even with sleeping enough hours 😬

Snaps From The Week

Been feeling very minimalist lately.

The Guesthouse

I started to get this feeling that I needed to spice things up and move away from staying at Tribal for a little bit. I dunno. Just this feeling I started to notice.

So I tried out a guesthouse for my first time ever. Found a good one! Beautiful spot.

But I did find it quite hilarious: About a total of 35 seconds after stepping inside, I opened up the door to the balcony, looked out and saw this.

And my brain went “dayyummmmmm what if I lived THERE?” 😂😂😂😂🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

Overall it’s been good. I just don’t like getting back at 7pm or 8pm and having this “dead time” of 1-2 hours alone. I just end up scrolling on my phone, which I don’t like.

But it’s been nice having my own space for once!

Networking

Lots of networking this week.

Terra

Heard of this business networking event a couple times and decided to go.

I noticed I felt a little non-present when I got there. A little closed off. But I tried to just focus on being present, keeping an open mind, and seeing what I learn.

It ended up being quite good. Gil Petersil spoke and gave this talk on how to network most effectively. He’s this networking coach who’s met some pretty crazy famous people. It was kind of wild that it’s a free event here…

But my takeaways came from when we got up and intentionally mingled, the peak moment of discomfort, asking each other what type of collaborations we’re looking to attract in our life right now.

I ended up getting into some chats and sharing that I’m in this transition, moving into a coaching path, just not quite sure what it looks like.

Jay, the host and founder? ended up in my little circle of 3 people and was asking me some fairly basic but pointed questions, what’s my why, what do I need right now, what are my next steps.

I felt uncomfortable and a bit on-the-spot so some of them I ended up just saying “I don’t think I can answer that right now” but made mental notes. I knew what I would do after I left 🙂

And I met this other guy that was like “I know exactly what you need” and mentioned this Bali Brotherhood men’s community that he also goes to.

I felt more supported than I was expecting to!

So I left with some great inspiration for how to network and meet people easier AND knowing what exactly I need to tackle next when I get back to some intentional thinking time.

Give It All

I went to Give It All the same evening. It was the last event for the next month, so I definitely wanted to show up. But I got there absolutely exhausted.

Some of my friends also came and instead of trying to push away to meet new people, I basically only talked to people I knew because I didn’t have the mental or social energy to start a new conversation 😂

But I ended up accidentally ordering a cocktail (I thought it was a mocktail, also because I didn’t read and was too tired) and it actually ended up helping a bit.

I approached 3 NEW people that night, which I was proud of.

Bali Brotherhood

I had ALSO heard this group mentioned a couple times but never went.

I showed up with zero expectations, I had no idea what they did. My ONLY hesitation was I didn’t want to be this group where everyone just dumps their emotion feelings on each other with none of the brotherhood/masculine/action/purpose type of energy.

It ended up being quite good! I was impressed. It was NOT what I was worried about.

And I yet again walked away with a very specific and impactful insight.

One of the guys shared that he has on his phone wallpaper “Be an example of your work.” He’s also a coach (he’s a hypnotist) and mentioned how sometimes we need to take our own advice. I heard that and it resonated hard.

We went into small groups and each had some time and space to just share whatever was on our mind. I shared this journey that I’m on, the uncertainty I’m in, and this feeling of not making any visible external progress every time someone asks me how things are going, how’s business, how’s work, etc.

One of the other guys picked out an interesting mirror how I resonate most with helping other people find their own clarity, yet here I am in this uncertain time looking for some kind of clarity.

I walked away thinking… “What if I were coaching myself like I coach other people? Think about how much progress you’d make.”

And so I decided that, with this idea that we all know the answers we’re looking for, that I would coach myself more.

Coaching Update

After some journaling about my next steps, what I need, and coaching myself through this, I realized I had nothing stopping me from a couple of steps I could already take.

So I threw together all the messages and feedback I got from people and turned them into testimonial-like Instagram stories and added a new highlight called “What They Say”

Yes I again changed my bio 🙂 I told you I would.

And also removed the pinned posts about YouTube strategy stuff. *the crowd GASPS in shock*

And today (Sunday) I did something else quite major but you’ll have to wait until next week to find out (or just check my stories haha).

What’s Your Offer?

I met this guy (some energetic healer coach) at Terra who, after me explaining my situation, said that he feels I have a block somewhere in my body.

He invited me to a chat outside of the event and so I met him at a coffee shop the next day. I was already starting to get some maybe mixed signals from him because he was doing a lot of talking and saying things without actually trying to understand my situation. But I kept an open mind.

Anyways, we sit down, and he walks me through this guided meditation where he like channels some energy and speaks out what he feels from me.

He starts talking about this light green liquid on my right shoulder, this yellow color in my stomach, something about my diet being off, then this fountain of ideas flowing from my head, how I have too many ideas, then ended with visualizing this light inside my body as I breathe.

Afterwards we talk and he asked me about what he said and felt. It basically went like this…

Is there anything wrong with your right shoulder? Mmmm I mean every so often I have this nerve twinge when I run in my shoulder and I hurt it back in high school swimming… but not really.
How’s your diet, are you eating a lot of yellow foods? Mmmmm I mean I eat a handful of eggs but it’s not every day. I eat a burger and fries maybe once a week? Oh and I got bali belly a week ago but couldn’t figure out where it came from.
What about this fountain? What are all these ideas you have? Mmmmm so I’m really on this path between two clear things, this YouTube strategy business and coaching, and was explaining how I made quite a lot of progress just in the last day.

Then we start talking about this new coaching service I’m moving into, he asks me some things and we talk about what I want it to become, why I’m doing it, what I help people with, where I’m at, etc.

Then at some point he’s like, so… what’s your offer?

And I’m like, I’m… not really sure. I think I’m just gonna let it develop organically and naturally. Like I’ve gotten a lot of feedback from people but there’s no one clear pattern, maybe just helping people find their own clarity.

He doesn’t really understand, and kind of doubles down on this question, like “what do you actually offer?” and asked if he sat down with me, what would I do or ask or take him through.

At this point I’m reaching sort of the boundary of my own knowledge, I’m kind of like “honestly I’m just not really sure. It’s just something that I do.”

Then he goes, so if we’re at a networking event and we’re at this table and everyone has 5 seconds to say what they do, I’m an “energetic [I forget what he said]”, this guy is an “intuitive coach,” what do you say?

He asks me this and then literally starts counting on his fingers, 1, 2, 3…

I go “so the closest thing I have is…”

(he cuts me off) “4, 5… that’s five seconds” and shakes his head

(I continue speaking, over him) “a high performance coach… but even that’s not a perfect fit”

… and at this moment I lost the rest of whatever I was still holding onto inside my mind in this conversation.

Man I was just like, this is a fantastic way to absolutely destroy the rapport and trust that you’ve built, to make this pointed statement and cut me off without actually trying to listen and understand…

I’ll reserve some of the other words, but I just felt like he spent most of the time talking… which is exactly the opposite of what I believe a good coach should do.

I walked away with part of me thinking, it’s okay to not know the answer in the moment, and that maybe what I need to do next is do some journaling and dive deeper into what exactly my offer is, what the structure and container is that I give people…

But I thought back to multiple other people and coaches I met in the last couple weeks. One was saying how the biggest shift in his journey was shifting from trying to understand what he does to just doing it and understanding after. He ran breath work sessions where he basically said “this is my intention for our session, but I don’t know what it’s gonna look like, let’s just jam” and he got amazing feedback. And someone else I met was suggesting to me to basically give some loose definition, but to just put yourself out there and let the people that resonate come to you.

So I ended up thinking… actually maybe what I need to do is exactly NOT what he’s telling me to do.

And then the other takeaway I wrote was:

“- Please for the love of god, don’t give people advice that you don’t fully understand, don’t tell people what you need to do. It’s such a bad feeling. Destroys my trust in you.”

So anyways, the session was interesting… maybe not in the ways I was expecting, but I did take some useful things away from it haha

Openhouse

Then right after I go to openhouse, sit at the bar, and end up starting this conversation with this girl next to me.

We talk for a while and get deeper into conversation, talking about socializing, conversations, emotional connection.

Towards the end, like I dunno, 45 minutes into the conversation, she goes, “Can I ask you a question? You seem to be on your path… how did you get there?”

And I gave my answer…

But after that, as I was driving back to my guesthouse on my scooter, I had a second to contrast this wholesome moment with the whole “what’s your offer” moment… and just went “… huh… :)”

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Thoughts From The Week

Being Seen

202508121302 Brain dump this morning - Brekky

#journal 

Man it was too funny last night at the Tribal Welcome Drinks meeting [name]. We talked, got through the initial stuff, then _continued_ to talk... At one point he's like "wait so you were a software engineer and now you're here... what happened?"

We start getting deeper into my story. He asked me how I started the YouTube strategy stuff.

I could start to feel that slight discomfort feeling, the fear of being seen, being seen as someone still just starting out. But I just sat in it and kept talking.

He goes "how many subscribers do you have?"

"480"

"480.... 480k?"

"No, 480, really small"

And he looks off into the distance and goes "ah... nice" as I see his brain re-calculating expectations.

I give it a second, feel the awkwardness, then go "how many subscribers do you have?" and he explains he's got like 5 channels and they're between 20k and 1.5M subscribers.


It just felt like a sign from the universe. A test. It's like let's see how far you've come... How are you gonna react here? What's the story you're gonna tell him? Are you fearing the question or what you have to explain?

Or will you detach from your past self? Will you sit confidently in the value you already know you own? Will you believe you are enough inside the expectation that you just broke in his mind? Without the external metrics validating you?

It was in that moment I was thinking how I haven't touched anything YouTube related in 3 months... why am I still telling this story like I still do it?


Then (it was earlier in the day), I'm texting [name] and she goes "... Understood. That’s why you did speech! 🎤 amazing! Is your program developed by your own experience?"

I read that, "Is your program developed by your own experience?" and just smiled and actually thought... "I love this place." (I remember I was walking out of Motion Cafe after dinner, walking back to my scooter in the parking lot in the back)

I love that I get to reinvent myself every couple days.

And each time I meet someone new, I tell a story that's closer to the truth, to my truth.

And with each person they ask something that pushes me forward just a little bit further.

Program? PROGRAM? Hahahahah ohhhh honey I don't even offer anything yet.

The Expressive Identity

202508130106 Another expressive comment from [name]

#identity 

Was at dinner tonight with friends. Met [name] and [name] there.

We were chatting, laughing. I was sitting next to [name] and we were goofing around laughing.

I could already feel that I was really laughing and being expressive.

Then somehow we get into my eyebrows and face.

Anyways, [name] goes "soooo expressive!"

I heard that and yet again smiled inside :)

The inner child. The indicator of all the work working :)

My Why

202508150829 Brain dump this morning - ACME Canggu

What's my why? Why do I want to do coaching?

...

Belief: when we're doing or living our passions and what lights us up, we are doing what we are meant to do in this life.
Why? Because people become more of themselves. And when we are more ourselves, we connect more and deeper with other people. We spread more joy and create more purpose and meaning.

My why? (summarized)
- Because life is too short to live a life out of what we're called to do, what we feel aligned by
- And when I see someone living out of alignment, I feel the pain and suffering they feel
- And I get a feeling of relief and resolution when I'm able to help them move towards their dreams

It All Makes Sense

A friend sent me this podcast and it put to words something I’ve been doing naturally and essentially explaining WHY people open up so quickly with me.

202508151959 VIEW mindset from The Art of Accomplishment

#communication 

- V.I.E.W. is a mindset not a technique. Micro expressions are the actual expression of your internal state, you can't fake it.
- V - vulnerability. To speak your truth even when it's scary.
- I - impartiality. Not trying to achieve an outcome for yourself or others. Wandering over goal orientation.
- E - empathy. To be with a person in their emotions.
- W - wonder. Like curiosity except you're not looking for the answer.
- these describe the state of mind
- "I have NO idea what's going to happen. Because if I did, or if I tried to make it happen in a particular way, it's going to go to shit. So it's far better for me to just be in this process and trust the process."
	- WOW that just hit, in the context of the "what is your offer" back and forth
	- Hold an objective and then just trust in the process
- technique: ask how and what questions
	- what is it that...
	- "why" leans more towards judgement and why questions are so much harder


## Source
V.I.E.W  (start at 00:02:10) https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Vk6v45W46usIh0QUTOh88?si=_S8aj2WWRF-ZxltB_dDWyA

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